Month: September 2021

Month: September 2021


As told by madam ABC.

Madam ABC, is a Dagomo Foundation beneficiary. She is different from others. Always quiet and distant from others, seldom talks but when she does intelligent and weighty.
She was highly educated, fluent in some foreign and local lingos. She was full of culture and pedigree, rather colonial.

Today, she told me her story, which began with “Emma, old age is full of pain and weaknesses, I wish God would set me free, take me away.
At seventy Plus, I’m doing overtime”.
Then she began her fascinating story.

Her Youth was full of glamour and attention,she travelled the world as a pioneer hostess for the Nigerian airways.
Her beautiful and composure attracted the high and mighty that could afford air travel then.

She soon became friends with the Military, Monarchs, Expatriates, Businessmen, and show biz personalities.
She was a constant visitor at the seat of power, then in Lagos, invited by the rulers and their clique.

She was present at Chieftaincy installations, Owanbe and Highlife parties, as she hobnobbed with the Ellan and Eclat. She thought her youthfulness was eternal and forgot to get married or have children. She accumulated wealth and fame, but was left empty.

As the years passed, her glamour and glamorous life began to fade.
None of the highly placed men asked her for marriage, neither sired any children with her.
At sixty, she accepted her lonely faith, as even relations she had previously snubbed stayed away. Her health declined, and she got used to loneliness.

Until the day she strayed into DAGOMO, and asked, if we could provide her with Novels by James Hadley Chase.

Emmanuel Oribhabor.

Is Age Just A Number

In our part of the world, age is an important factor in marriage.
It is a generally accepted rule if the man is older than the woman.
This gives credence to the myth that the man is stronger, older, wiser and the breadwinner. It is viewed as an aberration if the woman is older. The myth is that an older woman is dangerous, manipulative and domineering.

It is believed that the man has to shine his eye in choosing a partner.
This is necessary to ensure that he is three to five years the woman’s senior.
It is also generally believed that, a gap is needed as, women age faster than men.

Modern realities, especially in the western world has proved that, age is just a number. The important factor being desire or Love. Older women are taking on younger men as their husbands instead of gigolos.

An example is the marriage of French President Macron to a woman almost three decades his senior. A lady who taught him in high school, whose children are older than him. The Macrons have settled down well despite the age difference an early opposition

In Nigeria, the sociocultural norms, ethics and religion, are still major barriers to older women marrying younger men.
Ageism is a strong factor in determining relationships.

Emmanuel Oribhabor